You guys are awesome. Truly. I soooo appreciate the sympathy and tips. I've been here before with Bean, and I have no problem dishing out my own "assvice" on the subject, but for some reason I feel completely clueless right now.
So I decided to be a bit more active in sleep training (instead of just crossing my fingers and complaining about it), and take the advice of myself, you, and the wise Dr. Weissbluth. I came up with a loose plan. Oh, and just for reference -- Gax sleeps in a crib in our bedroom, and Nix sleeps in a crib in the nursery.
*Down to bed between 7-7:30 pm.
*Dreamfeed at 10 pm. (ie. Nurse them without really waking them.)
*At 12 am awakening, DH comforts Gax and my Dad comforts Nix so there is no temptation to nurse. Cry-it-out (CIO) for whichever baby(ies) won't settle for the men.
*At 2 am awakening, feed them.
*After that, see what happens...
The first two steps went off without a hitch. Then Gax woke at midnight, just as we anticipated. DH bounced him on the exercise ball for 5 minutes, and he (Gax, not DH) fussed the entire time. DH put Gax down in his crib... and much to my COMPLETE shock, he (Gax, not DH) fell asleep after just a few minutes of fussing.
Then Gax slept until 3 am, at which time he was hungry and I was happy to nurse him. He then returned to sleep until 7 am.
I know tonight may be more difficult because sleep training is never linear, but that made me one happy mama. I will take that schedule any time!
Unfortunately, things were not so easy with Nix. Now let me say first that letting Nix CIO is pretty much the hardest thing ever. (I know it's incredibly painful for any parent to let their kid CIO, but I mean even relative to that.) I love my dear Gax, but that kid is a Fussy McFusserpants all the time anyway, so we are used to hearing him cry/fuss when whenever we dare put him down to use the bathroom or eat lunch. Nix, on the other hand, rarely gets upset unless he is hungry or tired. And he lets out this sweet, mournful cry that makes the depths of your soul weep in sympathy.
So anyway, before we went to bed, I instructed DH and my Dad that a midnight wake-up would be NO NURSING, and a 2 am wake-up would be YES NURSING. Of course Nix decides to sleep just over 3 hours and wake us at 1:15 am. Which category did that fall in? I couldn't let the poor kiddo CIO at that point, so I fed him. He then continued the every-three-hours schedule, and I fed him each time. Hey, it was an improvement over the every-two-hours schedule, right??
Not sure what will happen tonight, please wish us luck.
Operation Day Dreamin' is hitting a few bumps. Overall, the twins are not bad nappers. Individually they have lots of good days and some not-so-good days, complicated by the fact that our lives are busier now than when Bean was 4-5 months old and I could easily stay home every time he needed to sleep. My problem is trying to gently push their naps together so we don't end up with at least one infant up at all times. There are rare occasions where it's uncanny, they will separately wake up from their naps within a minute of each other, and then they are ready for the next naps around the same time. But sometimes one (Gax) will sleep for 60 minutes and the other (Nix, natch) for 120 minutes, then they are completely off for the rest of the day. I don't want to wake up Nix after only 60 minutes, but keeping Gax up until Nix is ready for his next nap is a complete nightmare (and pretty cruel). We deal the best we can, but I'd be curious to hear if anyone has a suggestion for this. Will it just come with time?
Now a few random tidbits.
Nix got his first tooth last week! It's sooo cute, peeking through his tiny gums. Unlike my other two kiddos, Nix is a quiet teether. Our main indication was the constant drool seeping across our shoulders when we held him. Congrats to my sweet little man!
Lisa so kindly asked for an update on my parents' house hunt. They found a second place they liked, a well-priced home on a beautiful golf course. There were two other offers, and my parents lost to a full-price cash offer. DANG! So the search continues, and DH and I are in no hurry to have them leave us. (Meanwhile, on the first house they bid on that they lost when the seller got a bit greedy and went with a higher bidder with less secure financing, that deal fell through and it's now marked down almost $20K. Who's sorry now, lady!)
I am woefully behind on blog reading and commenting, I am so sorry. I've gotten in a vicious cycle of not reading because I want to wait until I have two hands free to comment... but that *rarely* happens anyway, so I don't even read... and now I have 440+ unread posts in Google Reader. I apologize for being MIA on your blog, but I have now decided to just read anyway instead of spending all my time online stalking new wraps that I don't need (but would totally use and love, DH!), and I'll just have to suffer when you say something brilliant and I want to say YES! or I'M WITH YA, SISTA! (because I always say that) but I can't because I'm nursing and that still takes at least one hand because I'm not that coordinated.
Speaking of blogs, my 3rd blogoversary is coming up in about two weeks. I know, I know... you are wondering what to get me! See that little counter on the top left side that says I have 81 followers? If you read my blog but haven't signed up there yet, I would love to hit 100. It's kind of OCD thing, I guess. I want to say it would help me sleep better, but yeah, probably not at this point. And also to celebrate, I'm going to try to put together a collection of fun Seattle things and then have a giveaway. (I make no promises, however... things are a leeeeetle crazy around here right now.) You spend time reading what I write and leaving me insightful and supportive comments, and I appreciate it!
And finally, because you've all been so much help with sleep advice, I need your help deciding what stroller to get. WAIT! Don't tell me yet, let me outline what I'm looking for. But stop by in a couple of days and I'll post about it. It'll be fun, like House Hunters on wheels -- and without the Asian lady's voiceover.
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