Sunday, June 15, 2008

Happy Father's Day

For me, one of the most difficult aspects of infertility was the feeling that my body was not only failing me month after month, but also my husband. He is such a great man -- intelligent, kind, and funny, without any conceit to go with it. There seems to be no selection process in who becomes a father these days, but if there was, my DH would pass with flying colors. Looking across the dinner table at him after a failed treatment, my heart would break into a million pieces fearing that I may never be able to give him a child.

Reading through the NaComLeavMo blogs, I am reminded that many people experience far greater heartache than we endured to conceive Bean. For those who haven't reached parenthood yet, I hope they get to celebrate Father's Day next year with their own sweet babies. Facing infertility and realizing that nothing is guaranteed brings a new level of appreciation to a holiday that is often reduced to an obligatory greeting card and a new tie. Cheesy as it may be, I find this day to be a bit sobering as well as celebratory, and for the millionth bazillionth time, I am grateful for my beautiful family.

So Happy Father's Day, DH. I couldn't be more proud of you, nor more grateful that Bean will have you to guide him as he grows up. Look what we made together.

I also want to say Happy Father's Day to my Dad, my father-in-law, and my grandpa. Bean has such wonderful male role models in his life, he's a lucky little boy.

Enjoy the day!


Busted said...

A great Father's Day tribute! Too often I think dads (or future dads) are forgotten in contemplating the pain of infertility and loss. It's nice of you to acknowledge the fathers still in the trenches.

Anonymous said...

Here from NCLM - I'm also on the "other side" of IF, and so very thankful for our miracles. I, too, have mixed feelings about M-Day & F-Day. They cause so much pain to those in the IF trenches.

Your little guy is a real cutie!

Kathy V said...

I love the one where Evey is giving Bean a kiss. That is a very touching Father's Day tribute. We celebrated Fathers to Be Day Yesterday so my husband was very excited.

susan said...

Your bean is such a cutie!

What a lovely tribute.


Jen said...

A beautiful note for father's day. We are already celebrating, but I'm very much looking forward to last year.

Oh and those baby blue eyes you're little man has are just to die for. He's going to drive the girls crazy.

margalit said...

Thanks for coming to visit my blog, and to leave such a supportive comment. I'm not having a great day!

Your son is ADORABLE. Love that little chinny chin chin!

Here from NCLM

andrea said...

glad you had such a great fathers day!! he is adorable :)

Still Standing Strong in A Bloom of Hope. said...

AWWW...great great Father's Day tribute!!!!

And Bean looks very cute!

Jodi @ SNAPPED said...

Your son is absolutely beautiful!
What a wonderful Father's Day tribute as well. Hope you are adjusting to your new move!
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sara said...

What a beautiful baby! I like the one where the dog is saying hello as well. I'm glad you guys had a nice Father's Day :-) (NCLM)